Learn to open up

Be disturbed if the people who love you the most are the people who know you the least – John Maxwell

There are times in our life when we feel like not sharing our innermost thoughts and feelings with our love ones. We feel like it’s best to keep it to ourselves. I could only think of a couple of reasons why we do that.

First is because we are afraid.  We’re afraid that maybe they would not agree to what we may say.  We are afraid to let them know our biggest fear,. We are afraid to show them our weakness. If you’re a man, I believe you can relate. Sometimes being a man, we always feel that we should be the strong one. Like we believe that it’s not normal for us to be afraid. Our ego get’s in the way. We may look strong and and courageous on the outside but inside we are trembling with fear.

Second is we feel like the other person would just ridicule us or put us down. Like if we have a big dream or if we want to start a project, we feel like the other person would just simply reject our ideas and laugh at us.

Third is we feel that we always think that if they really love us, they should know how we feel. Like as if they should have a secret power to read our thoughts. Like a witch or something. hehe

Although this feelings are true and valid, I still believe that if we really want true happiness in our lives we should be able to make our relationships strong. And we could only do that if we learn to open ourselves up to the other person. If the other person truly loves us, he/she would understand what we have to say or feel.

In the movie the pianist, starring andy brody. It’s a story of a man and his family’s ordeal during the Nazi era. On one scene when this guy named splitzer, (a pianist played by brody) were marching together with his family to the train that would take them to the Nazi concentration camp. After which they would be exterminated., as they were walking he took the hand of his sister and told her, “ I wish I have known you better”.

Friends, I believe that for our relationships to work, we should learn how to communicate with our feelings to our love ones.

If you want to be a better husband, better wife, better parents to your kids, or even a better son or daughter, brother or sister. I suggest you be a better friend first.

Learn to open up.

May you be a blessing to others 

Aim High, Live life, Love God,

Ludwig Weigand